We’re going to start the year off right by talking about porn.
What the what?
And this is your year to give up porn. And no. We aren’t talking about erotica. We’re talking about what self-help guru Tim Denning calls “addictive habits.” He uses the word porn to grab attention (it works if you’re here) and explain how these addictions are everywhere.
He then categorizes all the different types of porn we have.
There’s lifestyle porn – sitting on the toilet and whipping out your phone.
There’s money porn – always being on your phone or laptop so that you can earn that “100,000 in five months,” always reading the article or watching the podcast to figure out how to make that money super quickly.
There’s startup porn, which is basically being addicted to starting new businesses so you can get that money.
There’s revenge porn where you are a mean punk on social media, hurting people’s feelings in comments, subtweets, or messages.
There’s real porn. We don’t need to explain that, right?
There’s influencer porn where you are all about your brand and selfish instead of giving.
I think there are a lot more addictions than that. There’s the:
You think you’ll be happy if you just lose that 40 pounds but you keep hopping from one diet to another.
The Outside Photos Addiction
You think everyone wants to see your vista photos.
Television, Video, and Gaming Addictions
You spend all your time consuming other people’s content and escaping. Escaping is fantastic, but you don’t want to do it all the time.
“The secret to kill all forms of porn is discipline.
“Discipline yourself to focus on what you know is good for you.
“You have a list of habits already that you probably follow — like exercise, reading, leisure time, meditation — and you can focus your time there and get far better returns than the endless porn-fuelled addictions of meaningless nonsense.
“Porn is an addictive distraction to doing the work you know you want to do. Getting started with your life’s work each day is hard, but so is continually distracting yourself with life porn.”
Instead, maybe think about what you want, who you want to be, what you want to do and think about how you can give up the porn that’s holding you back.
- Stop trolling people.
- Stop being mean to yourself.
- Stop watching so much content (except us of course). Just kidding.
- Stop making ideas and not actually pursuing those ideas.
- Stop reading your phone when you go poop.
DOG TIP FOR LIFE!
You only have so much time in this world. Use it well. Use it the way you want to. Not the way your addictions want you to.
LINKS WE MENTION
The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License.
Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song? It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.
AND we have a writing tips podcast called WRITE BETTER NOW!
We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.
Carrie is reading one of her poems every week on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!