When you’re in a business or nonprofit or just in your house, you’ll often notice that emotions are kind of like the flu. They can be easy to catch.
When your friend is angry because someone is being a punk on Facebook, you often get angry, too. When your kid is sad, you can get sad. Emotions from others often seep into us, especially in a workplace.
Let’s say everyone is super excited at a writing conference. Are you going to get super excited, too? Probably.
It’s all about mirror neurons, emotional intelligence, and biomimicry.
Put simply, emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and control our own emotions and the emotions of other people.Matt Hunckler for Forbes
Part of emotional intelligence is understanding that we often adopt or mimic the expressions, behavior and emotion of those we spend a great deal of time with.
Those bonds can help us or hurt us.
Research from University of Oklahoma and University of Texas at Austin shows that when individuals dislike the same people or find a common dislike of something in general, all of a sudden those individuals have a bond that easily turns into a friendship because it’s a connection.
What’s the life lesson in this? Take a minute and reflect, asking yourself:
What types of emotion do I give off and how does that affect others I interact with such as my family, roommates, team mates, colleagues, etc.?
How easily do I let others effect my emotions? Do I even know it is happening? Check out the Emotional Contagion Scale to see how vulnerable you are.
Are the people in my social networks the type of people I really want to surround myself with?
Jodi Schulz for Michigan State University
Are there actions or changes I need to make?
When it comes to writing, figure out how you can use the contagion of emotion to shift your main character’s (or other’s) world view and actions. Our characters are not static things and just like real people, they should be impacted (and impact) those around them.
WRITING TiP OF THE POD:
When you write, remember that relationships and characters are about connections and those around them impact their growth and emotions.
DOG TIP FOR LIFE
If emotions are contagious, pick your pack wisely. Don’t hang around with the growling jerks. Hang around with the dogs who wag their tails and keep you happy.
The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song? It’s “Night Owl” by Broke For Free.
WRITING AND OTHER NEWS
IN THE WOODS – READ AN EXCERPT, PREORDER NOW!
My next book, IN THE WOODS, appears in July with Steve Wedel. It’s scary and one of Publisher’s Weekly’s Buzz Books for Summer 2019. There’s an excerpt of it there and everything! But even cooler (for me) they’ve deemed it buzz worthy! Buzz worthy seems like an awesome thing to be deemed!
You can preorder this bad boy, which might make it have a sequel. The sequel would be amazing. Believe me, I know. It features caves and monsters and love. Because doesn’t every story?
HEAR MY BOOK BABY (AND MORE) ON PATREON
On February first, I’m going to launch my Patreon site where I’ll be reading chapters (in order) of a never-published teen fantasy novel, releasing deleted scenes and art from some of my more popular books. And so much more.
WHAT IS PATREON?
A lot of you might be new to Patreon and not get how it works. That’s totally cool. New things can be scary, but there’s a cool primer HERE that explains how it works. The short of it is this: You give Patreon your paypal or credit card # and they charge you whatever you level you choose at the end of each month. That money supports me sharing my writing and art and podcasts and weirdness with you.
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I do art stuff. You can find it and buy a print here.
People call it a cross between Harry Potter and Percy Jackson but it’s set in Maine. It’s full of adventure, quirkiness and heart.
FLYING AND ENHANCED
Men in Black meet Buffy the Vampire Slayer? You know it. You can buy them here or anywhere. It’s fun, accessible science fiction.