Once, one of our kiddos had two soccer coaches.
And one time at the game, her jv coach yelled at her. She cried the entire way home. She refused to cry on the bench because she’s stoic like that.
Carrie talked to the varsity coach the next morning and he said, “Yeah. I had to do damage control on four or five players after that game. He had them all crying.”
It is hard for us to handle my kid crying about soccer.
One because in the big scheme of things it’s not important. But also, having someone yell at you is like having them give you a wedgie. It’s embarrassing, you feel the opposite of awesome and it can hurt.
That’s the thing reality hurts.
Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, who wrote, FINDING FLOW, says, “To achieve excellence, we must first understand the reality of the everyday, with all its demands and potential frustrations.”
Crying because of soccer coaches counts as the reality of the everyday moments.
So does not putting the filter in the coffee maker right so that eight cups of water and coffee grinds spill all over the counter and the floor.
So does getting a wedgie or trolled on Facebook by your Great Aunt Mary’s best friend who thinks wearing masks is a conspiracy sent by aliens from the planet GoodSpa.
So does realizing your WIP is in need of serious help.
Part of improvisational comedy and improvisational life is facing the facts even when those facts suck.
That’s Patricia Ryan Madson’s seventh maxim in her book IMPROV WISDOM is about facing fact.
Carrie really hates facing the facts, sometimes. But she likes the facts (even when they aren’t in her favor) because the facts aren’t lies.
We have to go with what truths we have and sometimes what we have is a middle school jv soccer coach who makes people cry. Or a politician or a family member who does the same thing
Sometimes the truth is a ton of coffee-stained water on the floor or a dog who peed when she woke up and somehow that pee created a big puddle under your king-sized bed.
Sometimes the truth is a WIP that needs serious help. Sometimes it’s a relationship that needs that, a country, a community.
And today, the day, we’re releasing the podcast is election day in the United States and it’s not an understatement to say that the U.S. is having a difficult year and a lot of us are really worried about today.
But worries and wishes? That’s not where it’s at.
As this brilliant woman says,
“Wishing things were different simply wastes time. The improviser can’t afford unrealistic thinking. Instead, she builds bridges over rocky terrain and turns lemons into lemonade. She works with what is actually in front of her, setting aside the temptation to dwell on what is not.”Patricia Madson
She is so smart.
Now is not the time for just worrying and wishing. It’s a time for action. Write your books. Protest. Vote for your candidates. Create the community and laws and system that seem fair and equitable to you.
But do it. No matter what
WRITING TIP OF THE POD
Wishing your story into existence doesn’t make your story exist. Dig in. Write it. Write it now.
DOG TIP FOR LIFE
Don’t laze around on the couch and let all the other dogs do the work. Bark. Guard things that are important to you. You can’t complain that you don’t get any treats if you never make an effort.
The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License.
Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song? It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.
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