How You’re Messing Up Your Visualization and Mainers Have the Biggest Disks

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So, today I was talking to one of my writing clients, who is a therapist and I was actually audacious enough to suggest a tool to help her get through her block about writing her query letter and synopsis, both part of a writer’s proposal package or submission package when they query agents in the quest to be traditionally published.

And this tool, basically comes from Mel Robbins, who is an author, podcaster, and speaker. And, um, apparently the #1 education podcast in the world even though, um, I had never heard of her.

Cough.

Don’t judge, Shaun. She’s also very good at self marketing and is considered a self-publishing phenom and is pretty cute, which means she has a ton of photos of herself on her website.

So, basically the opposite of us except Shaun is cute.

Anyway, enough preamble, she suggests, no insists, that people have a morning routine. It can be five minutes. It can be an hour.

Within this morning routine, you want to focus on an actionable step and nothing else for 15 minutes. During this time, you want to write down your goals, but you actually have to do this big second step, which is imagining yourself taking the steps to get there. According to Robbins, you visualize the steps to get to that end goal and the third step is to imagine and feel the emotions that are connected to each step. Pride? Excitement? Joy? Get all of them in there.

This is similar to Simon Sinek’s who says to go after the things that you want, he tells the story of hiself and a friend going out for bagels.

See the thing that you want. Or see the thing that prevents you from getting what you want. When you go after what you want, he stresses,  you don’t want to get in the way of other people’s wants.

Bas Korsten wrote for Harvard Business Review, “Think about it. Great athletes train their bodies for days, weeks, and years to whip them into peak performance. Why, then, wouldn’t a creator do the same with their brain?”

A.J. Adam writes about the science behind visualization for Psychology Today,

“For instance, in his study on everyday people, Guang Yue, an exercise psychologist from Cleveland Clinic Foundation in Ohio, compared results of those who did physical exercises to the results of those who carried out virtual workouts in their heads. In the physical exercise group, finger abduction strength increased by 53%. In the group that did “mental contractions”, their finger abduction strength increased by 35%. However, “the greatest gain (40%) was not achieved until 4 weeks after the training had ended” (Ranganathan et al., 2004). This demonstrates the mind’s incredible power over the body and its muscles.”

Ideas come. They come all the time, right? But the thing is that you have to imagine those ideas, practice what it feels like do them, and then have the energy to get off your bum, get out of bed, get out of your chair and actually do those ideas.


DOG TIP FOR LIFE

For any change to happen, you have to activate your energy. Be like Pogie. Activate all the energy.

Links To Learn More

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/flourish/200912/seeing-is-believing-the-power-visualization

Take Control of Your Life: How to Silence Fear and Win the Mental Game – https://amzn.to/2EfL8c5

The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage – https://amzn.to/2Xb8uqI

https://apnews.com/hub/oddities



SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

Shame on Us No More. Own Who You Are, Baby.

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I cannot tell you how much fear of public shaming and disdain has held me back my entire life. I’ve pretty much smalled myself down because I was so nervous about random, anonymous (or not) mean things happening. And I talk about that more specifically in the podcast.

Teddy Roosevelt has this quote from a speech in Paris in 1910 just after he ran for president. There were over 2,000 people there.  “Citizenship in a Republic,” or “The Man in the Arena.”

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

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The applause lasted more than two minutes. Multiple times.

“The first time I read this quote,” Dr. Brené  Brown wrote in the intro to her book Daring Greatly, “I thought, This is vulnerability. Everything I’ve learned from over a decade of research on vulnerability has taught me this exact lesson. Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.”

So here goes:

Ignore the noise.

Blow off the haters.

Do your work.

Follow your passion.

Love your people.

Power through or love your way through your insecurities.

RANDOM THOUGHT LINK

We talk about feet sort of, but really facilitated meeting ice breakers. Either one? Totally sexy.

DOG TIP FOR LIFE

Sparty doesn’t care if people call him a toothless weirdo. He just loves every moment. Be like Sparty.


SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

How To Talk To Your Cat About Gun Safety And Other Ridiculous Books

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How To Talk To Your Cat About Gun Safety And Other Ridiculous Books
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This week, we venture aware from the world of self-development and into the world on the weird because we honestly just need a break.

Hopefully, you’ll be along for the ride.

DOG TIP FOR LOVE

This week’s advice is via Sparty who says, “You know, if you love squirrels, it’s okay to love squirrels. Love who you love, man. Or, you know, just love the squirrel you’re with.”

LINKS TO LEARN MORE

https://www.wsbtv.com/news/local/truth-is-out-there-just-not-here-two-old-farts-offer-wisdom-georgia-park/Y3SSC5IW4BCGHDADMBQWK6KSCU/

https://alwaysjudgeabookbyitscover.com/

https://theuselessweb.com/


SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

Darwin Awards and Plan Your Day Like a Boss

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Dogs Are Smarter Than People: Writing Life, Marriage and Motivation
Darwin Awards and Plan Your Day Like a Boss
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I wrote over on LIVING HAPPY about some time management tools for planning your day, and today, Shaun and I are checking it out a little bit more.

DOG TIP FOR LIFE

Day planning needs to include walks, poops, and water. Just saying.


LINKS WE MENTION

https://darwinawards.com/darwin/darwin2022-07.html

https://livinghappy.substack.com/p/how-do-you-actually-manage-your-time-e5b



SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

90 Day Goals Can Change Your Life

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Dogs Are Smarter Than People: Writing Life, Marriage and Motivation
90 Day Goals Can Change Your Life
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First off, many apologies, because Shaun was super naughty this podcast.

There’s a belief that if you make 90-day goals, it super charges you.

We’re going to explain that. And we’re going to give it a try.

Plus, general weirdness. Come hang out for 20 minutes.

And remember when you make goals:

  1. write those bad boys down;
  2. make them specific and have outcomes;
  3. make a deadline.

Good goal: Finish first draft of Weirdos of Bar Harbor by April 1.

Bad goal: write a book.

DOG TIP FOR LIFE

Go after your snacks. Be all about your goal. Do you. Don’t let other people neg your goal.

Pogie is all about the treats.

LINKS WE REFERENCE

https://www.forbes.com/sites/netapp/2015/02/11/90-day-goals/?sh=5af3a5526260

https://apnews.com/article/caribbean-bahamas-b7de53a43d7ed762100527dae2596723

https://apnews.com/article/climate-and-environment-brooklyn-new-york-city-animals-f5914137cc03e5bfc1b88ca1a836c142


SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

ANIMAL MATING RITUALS ARE WEIRD AND APPARENTLY LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED IS REALLY A LOT OF BS

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Dogs Are Smarter Than People: Writing Life, Marriage and Motivation
ANIMAL MATING RITUALS ARE WEIRD AND APPARENTLY LOVE IS ALL YOU NEED IS REALLY A LOT OF BS
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Yep. It’s Valentine’s Day so we are talking about how you need more than love to be happy and fulfilled. Or here, let’s rephrase it: It’s not necessarily love that makes you happy and fulfilled. And that’s what we talk about this podcast. Plus, giant pandas take each other hostage to court and giraffes have a lot of water sports.

DOG TIP FOR LIFE

Sparty and Pogie

Loving each other is way more important than fighting over who is alpha or blaming each other. Also, hug people when they come home and wag your tail as much as possible.

LINKS WE REFERENCE

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201507/is-love-really-all-you-need

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/strange-love-13-animals-with-truly-weird-courtship-rituals/ar-AA17s9RR


SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

Little boy orders a thousand dollars worth of Grubhub and how to actually get your goals

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Little boy orders a thousand dollars worth of Grubhub and how to actually get your goals
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A lot of people set goals or resolutions and not all of us complete them. This is especially true about resolutions where only about 9% achieve them.

Sometimes that’s about a fear of failure. It becomes such a big fear that it keeps us from moving forward.

You have to fail to succeed.

There’s a lot of belief out there that if you fail at something, that failure labels you, defines you.

This episode we talk about the strategy to get your goals and also about a six-year-old boy who hid in the basement and ordered $1,000 of Grubhub on his dad’s cell phone one night.

And also a woman who started breathing at a funeral home.

DOG TIP FOR LIFE

Sparty never stops trying.


Don’t let anyone call you anything you don’t want to be called especially if they are calling you a failure. Go after your goals and don’t worry about the ridicule.

https://apnews.com/article/oddities-detroit-michigan-business-5ade1109c559a09d42190f3a2b7ead42

https://apnews.com/article/new-york-state-government-7caaefc9d212da3556e4c163a7a29f6c

https://www.cnbc.com/2017/06/28/tony-robbins-use-this-4-step-strategy-to-achieve-any-goal.html



SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

Fried Chicken Incense, Farts, and Not Letting Your Worries Master You

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Dogs Are Smarter Than People: Writing Life, Marriage and Motivation
Fried Chicken Incense, Farts, and Not Letting Your Worries Master You
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This podcast is about farting, worries, and fried chicken incense. What other self-improvement podcast can give you such smelly happiness? None, right?

Come hang out for a bit!

DOG TIP FOR LIFE

Fried Chicken Incense, Farts, and Not Letting Your Worries Master You
They often let things rip

If it’s farts or love declarations or a loan application, don’t be afraid to let it out. Yeah, it might not go awesomely, but it’s better than not knowing. All movement matters. You don’t want to hold it in. Especially the farts.

LINK WE MENTION

https://www.uexpress.com/oddities/news-of-the-weird/2023/01/27


SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

Don’t Drink 40 Shots With The Undertaker. The Voices In Your Head Craft Your Success

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Don't Drink 40 Shots With The Undertaker. The Voices In Your Head Craft Your Success
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“God, how we get our fingers in each other’s clay. That’s friendship, each playing the potter to see what shapes we can make of each other.” 

― Ray Bradbury

This episode is about the stakeholders in your head and how they shape your success and also about drinking 40 shots with wrestling guru the Undertaker.

DOG TIP FOR LIFE!

Only listen to the good voices and don’t drink 40 shots.

Our Puppy Ate A Lot of Tampons
Our Puppy Ate A Lot of Tampons, She Survived. She shouldn’t have listened to those voices.

LINK WE MENTION

https://www.thirstyfornews.com/2023/01/17/undertaker-made-rookie-wrestler-drink-40-shots-with-him-after-stealing-lex-lugers-girl/


SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!

The Butter Canal And Finding Your Personal Values

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Dogs Are Smarter Than People: Writing Life, Marriage and Motivation
The Butter Canal And Finding Your Personal Values
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We know! We know! The title? It will all make sense in a second.

Hopefully . . .

Join us!

DOG TIP FOR LIFE

Sparty hiding in the grass

Your personal values can change. That’s okay. That’s growth or personal evolution.

LINKS WE MENTION

https://www.lifehack.org/866227/personal-values

https://www.foxnews.com/us/wisconsin-historic-canal-filled-with-butter-after-dairy-plant-catches-fire


SHOUT OUT!

The music we’ve clipped and shortened in this podcast is awesome and is made available through the Creative Commons License. 

Here’s a link to that and the artist’s website. Who is this artist and what is this song?  It’s “Summer Spliff” by Broke For Free.

WE HAVE EXTRA CONTENT ALL ABOUT LIVING HAPPY OVER HERE! It’s pretty awesome.

We have a podcast, LOVING THE STRANGE, which we stream biweekly live on Carrie’s Facebook and Twitter and YouTube on Fridays. Her Facebook and Twitter handles are all carriejonesbooks or carriejonesbook. But she also has extra cool content focused on writing tips here.

Carrie is reading one of her raw poems every once in awhile on CARRIE DOES POEMS. And there you go! Whew! That’s a lot!