How do you make meaning in your life? That’s a big questions we’ve been struggling with here.
Success is defined for us:
- It’s having a kid who graduates high school.
- It’s having your own home, your own car.
- It’s looking like a Kardasian.
- It’s being strong like the Rock.
But when you were a little kid was that what you thought?
Let’s say you’re two. Success is going on the potty, honestly, and not the floor. Success is not wearing a diaper.
Success and happiness came from immediate things. It was a piggyback ride on your sister’s shoulders. It was twirling around in circles until you fell down dizzy. It was an ice cream cone that made it into your mouth and not the sidewalk.
It wasn’t a million-dollar book contract or celebrity endorsements. Or a McMansion. It wasn’t 8,000 likes on your TikTok video.
It was what made you happy inside. You. Not anyone else. And somehow along the way, a lot of us have forgotten what makes us happy. Us. Not society. Not Twitter. Not TikTok. Or YouTube or politicians or gurus who charge $390 for a class. Us.
When we’re little, we often don’t get to see people from all different demographics exploring, explaining, existing. We live in pretty big bubbles sometimes. But witnessing diversity in thought and life and experience especially from a young age allow us to grow and not fall into the traps of strict notions of “what it means to be successful.”
We could give a crap about what John Patrick Dorsey or Mark Zuckerberg or our senators or presidents define as ‘successful.’ And when we chase other people’s definitions? That’s when we lose meaning in our lives. We have to define words like “success” and “happiness” for ourselves. Sometimes that means forgetting what we’ve been taught and remembering who we are.
We have to take back our own power and decide what success is to us, not society, not our parents, not our children, us. What gives us meaning? What gives us joy?
WRITING TIP OF THE POD
Think about what you want from your writing. Is it to be a NYT bestseller? To make $600,000 a year. Or is it something simpler?
DOG TIP FOR LIFE
It’s okay to find meaning in things other people scorn. To heck with them. You do you.
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