Be Brave Friday

Over the years, I’ve talked about the time my dark-skinned dad and I were fishing at a stream in New Hampshire and white men surrounded us, got aggressive, and called my dad the N-word. I was eight or so. I am very white and I had never seen overt racism before. When I was a couple years older, I volunteered for Jesse Jackson and saw it again and again and again, so much so that they wouldn’t let me do doors with the other workers because they were protecting me, the random, little, white kid.

I have always been shocked at my white friends’ shock that racism exists in big ways and small, in our society and ourselves.

That’s it. Because this is not about me and it damn well shouldn’t be. It’s about learning, growing, and doing what we can do to be active allies in making our communities and our selves better, united, equitable, and just.


It’s Be Brave Friday and here is a work in progress because aren’t we all works in progress?

Be brave, friends. I am so sorry when you are forced to be brave and proud of you when you choose to be.

Here are some links where you can help, many of which come from Inside the Kandish (linked below)

Donate: 

If you’d like to help the families and people who loved George FloydAhmaud Arbery, and Breonna Taylor

Organizations doing good work: 

The Bail Project

The Minnesota Freedom Fund,

The Florence Project

the NAACP Legal Defense Fund

Communities United Against Police Brutality,

The American Civil Liberties Union

Protest:

Vice has a great list of the  following precautions that you might want to check out if you’re protesting.

Places To Learn:

The Brown Bookshelf.

The Brown Bookshelf’s Anti-Racist Resources for KidLit Rally 4 Black Lives.

How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi

The Racial Equity Institute

Bowtie Leadership founded by Dr. Todd Jenkins

Dr. Jenkins’s motto is inspired by St. Augustine. 

“The world is like a book… those who do not engage, unravel, and connect to better one’s self and others, only read one page.”

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Be Brave Friday – Tired of Being a Ghost

So, I have had a weird week and an epiphany.

As you know (hopefully) BE BRAVE FRIDAY started over on my Facebook and it’s because I am afraid to share my art because (cough) I have issues. I know! Stunning revelation right there, right?

Anyways, I had an epiphany last night that so many of my paintings have ghost women in them. And I realized that they have ghost women in them is because I waffle all the time between:

  1. Afraid of being seen.
  2. Tired of not being seen.

If you are a woman or a member of an oppressed group, you probably know what I’m talking about. I’m talking about:

  1. Going into a conference as a speaker and everyone assuming the guy with you is the talent.
  2. Being at a board meeting and saying something and everyone ignores your suggestion until Chad says the exact same thing two minutes later and everyone is like, “Wow. Right, Chad. Good idea, Chad.”
  3. Trying to talk in a Zoom meeting and everyone just talking over you. Actually that goes for everyone.

And then there are the times you don’t want to be seen because it feels dangerous to be seen, to be known, to be noticed, in a society that can be full of trolls and drama and violence. If you have never felt that way, I am so happy for you.

But anyways. I think I am tired of being a ghost but sometimes it’s just so hard to be brave and materialize.

I hope you are brave today and all days and seen when you want to be seen.

WHERE TO FIND OUR PODCAST, DOGS ARE SMARTER THAN PEOPLE

The podcast link if you don’t see it above. Plus, it’s everywhere like Apple Music, iTunesStitcherSpotify, and more. Just google, “DOGS ARE SMARTER THAN PEOPLE” then like and subscribe.

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Link to Jose’s bonus interview. Jokes, Stuffies, And Using Your Weirdness for Good, An Interview with Jose De La Roca

Link to Caitlyn’s bonus episode. Books, Law School during Covid-19 and just being Kick Butt – Using Law to Create Lasting Change – Interview with Caitlyn Vanover

This week’s episode. Money Is Not the Enemy and the Habits of the Rich

Last week’s episode link. Emotional Insecurity Is Us and Farts are Everywhere.


NEW BOOK OF AWESOME

I have a new book out!!!!!! It’s an adult mystery set in the town where we live, which is Bar Harbor, Maine. You can order it here. And you totally should. 

And if you click through to this link, you can read the first chapter! 

And click here to learn about the book’s inspiration and what I learned about myself when I was writing it.


IN THE WOODS – READ AN EXCERPT, ORDER NOW!

My new book, IN THE WOODS, is out!

Gasp!

It’s with Steve Wedel. It’s scary and one of Publisher’s Weekly’s Buzz Books for Summer 2019. There’s an excerpt of it there and everything! But even cooler (for me) they’ve deemed it buzz worthy! Buzz worthy seems like an awesome thing to be deemed!

Be Brave Friday

Being scared doesn’t mean you’re weak.


Admitting that your anxious, afraid, upset? That’s called being honest. Being honest isn’t weakness no matter how many people might try to deny your truths and tell you that it is.


Being honest is being brave.


Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines bravery as: “the quality or state of having or showing mental or moral strength to face danger, fear, or difficulty; the quality or state of being brave; courage.”


I know you are all being brave in big a ways and small, facing danger, fear, difficulties and I so admire you.


Act with love not fear, okay?

Create safe spaces for yourself and for others. Be a warrior about it. Be a love warrior. A bravery warrior. You can do this.


Here is my painting for BE BRAVE FRIDAY. The oil is still wet. But you’ll forgive me, right? It is still terribly hard for me to share these whenever I do, I feel like I’m about to explode into flames.


<3 So much love to all of you.


WHERE TO FIND OUR PODCAST, DOGS ARE SMARTER THAN PEOPLE

The podcast link if you don’t see it above. Plus, it’s everywhere like Apple Music, iTunesStitcherSpotify, and more. Just google, “DOGS ARE SMARTER THAN PEOPLE” then like and subscribe.

Join the 216,000 people who have downloaded episodes and marveled at our raw weirdness. You can subscribe pretty much anywhere.

Link to Jose’sbonus interview.

This week’s episode link. 


NEW BOOK OF AWESOME

I have a new book out!!!!!! It’s an adult mystery set in the town where we live, which is Bar Harbor, Maine. You can order it here. And you totally should. 

And if you click through to this link, you can read the first chapter! 

And click here to learn about the book’s inspiration and what I learned about myself when I was writing it.


IN THE WOODS – READ AN EXCERPT, ORDER NOW!

My new book, IN THE WOODS, is out!

Gasp!

It’s with Steve Wedel. It’s scary and one of Publisher’s Weekly’s Buzz Books for Summer 2019. There’s an excerpt of it there and everything! But even cooler (for me) they’ve deemed it buzz worthy! Buzz worthy seems like an awesome thing to be deemed!

Be Brave Friday

Hey, it’s Be Brave Friday over on my Facebook and now here too and I don’t have a finished painting to share, so you’ll have to see one that’s in progress. It’s garish and raw and not even cropped, which is how I feel at the moment. 

But more important than that, in this time of COVID-19, in this week where I’ve seen one friend lose her young husband to a heart attack and another lose his family camp to a fire, I just want to tell you that there are so many levels of being brave. 

And just continuing on? That’s tremendously brave. 

To be human, to live, is to be brave. 

Thank you all so much for being brave with me. I am so lucky to have you and know you. So much love to all of you.

Raw Exploration

WHERE TO FIND OUR PODCAST, DOGS ARE SMARTER THAN PEOPLE

The podcast link if you don’t see it above. Plus, it’s everywhere like Apple Music, iTunesStitcherSpotify, and more. Just google, “DOGS ARE SMARTER THAN PEOPLE” then like and subscribe.

Join the 212,000 people who have downloaded episodes and marveled at our raw, weirdness. You can subscribe pretty much anywhere.


RECENT EPISODES OF AWESOME AND BONUS INTERVIEWS

This week’s episode link. 

Last week’s episode link 

Link to Sam Spellacy’s interview.

Link to Cara Sawyer (librarian of awesome) interview.

A bonus interview with Dr. J.L. Delozier, Pennsylvania doctor and writer. 

bonus interview with poet and coach Fiona Mackintosh Cameron.